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Question:
Hello! I’m actually new to the dating scene so I’ve never really had a date before. So my question to you is, what should I do on the 1stw that I should relax and just try to enjoy the date, but to be honest I’m scared that we won’t have anything to talk about. Can you please give me some advice on this matter?
Thank you.
Jimboy
Answer:
Tip#1: First of all, never ask a girl out on a date.
Let me repeat that: NEVER ask a girl out on date. Hang out – YES, Get Together– YES, Date– No. Asking a girl out on a date clearly gives away your intention of wanting more from her than just pure friendship. The element of surprise is your magic formula; it’s your recipe to success. Women should NEVER be allowed to recognize the fact that you’re attracted to them from the get-go otherwise everything you say or do will seem like an attempt to impress her.
Tip #2: Now let’s talk about how to make your conversation more interesting to that point that you can create chemistry between the both of you.
First thing you have to know is that you should NEVER talk about weird and geeky topics such as Murder, Rape, your X-men comic book collection,
your passion for UFC and volleyball, IT mumbo jumbo, Star Wars or the top secret ‘Avatar’ you’ve been working on for the past 6 months.
You should also NEVER put yourself down when talking to her, ask her stupid questions such as if you’re the sort of person she could possibly fall for or how long it’s been since you had a date.
These topics scream desperate, needy and low self esteem. Now unless you’re planning to live the rest of your life as a single hermit then I suggest that you STEER CLEAR of a ny of these topics.
So what topics should you be talking about on a first date?
Now before I talk about that, let me first enlighten you on your objective on a first date.
So what is the objective?
It’s to create a LIGHT and FUN atmosphere. Its about making her laugh and getting her to let her hair down so that she’ll be looking forward
to the next date.
Here are 3 sure-fire topics that will get women well into the conversation:
Romance, Love and Celebrity.
Everyone’s familiar of celebrity’s right?
It’s always fun talking about and commenting on the latest celebrity scandal or the latest fashion slip up or even who got busted cheating this time round. Its light, its fun and you know women dig this stuff because they buy magazines and watch TV shows because they love talking about them.
Of course, there’s always the crowd favourite topic that women love to talk about:
Love and Romance.
Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past 10 years, then you would know that Love and Romance will always be a topic that women would want to delve into. Why do you think women love to watch Chick flicks? Because deep inside they want to be swept off their feet by their own personal knight in shining armour.
You can talk about funny romantic experiences you’ve had in the past, like for example how nervous you were before every time your crush walks past or you can even both talk about whether or not she would fall for someone she probably won’t be attracted to like a pimple faced dwarf – all in the name of love.
You can also come up with some bogus theories about love and romance. Like for example you can tell her that women are usually attracted to men with big ears or something – the more ridiculous your theory is, the better!
Just keep in mind that your MAIN Objective is to make her laugh so that she’ll be looking forward to you next date.
In saying that, just make sure she laughs with you and not AT you. You’re aiming for “witty and cheeky” funny not Laugh out loud “Jim Carrey” funny.
Tip #3: As your date draws to a conclusion, make sure that you end it and not her. For example, let’s say you end up going to the movies with your date. Afterwards you then both decide to grab a small midnight snack on some restaurant. Make sure that you dictate the flow of the date.
Whilst the date is going well and according to plan, be the first one to eject from it, on an extreme case-request to take her home. Only do this though if you feel like you won’t be able to get intimate with her that night. Leave whilst you’re at the top of your game. This way, you leave her wanting more.
